Start shopping with an open mind, Thorson suggested. Be willing to try on new styles you hadn’t previously considered to see what you like and don’t like on yourself. Then, you can start to narrow down your options and even go to a more specialized store to find the perfect dress. Trust your consultant when trying on dresses, Thorson said. As they suggest new options, they might open you up to an option or style you hadn’t considered before, or reinforce that you know the style that you like and want. Tell the consultant about any potential big personalities in the group so that they can work as your advocate during the trying-on stage, even directing your group away from dresses that are out of your price range or not the style you want.
With wedding dress shopping, it’s important to pace yourself. Do not, we repeat, do not shop till you drop! If you keep the group small and only schedule two appointments in a day, it will be more manageable and more fun. Choose wisely who you bring with you to try on dresses, Thorson said. Pick the people whose opinions you value the most and who know you best. They should know what clothes you normally wear and have a good idea of your style, and most of all, they should be comfortable being honest with you. Three people is the ideal number that Thorson recommends, but it’s a very individual decision and, unlike math, there is no wrong number. Wedding dress shopping is all about knowing yourself, and having the people you value and love with you to tell you honestly if the dress is a yes.
When you find that perfect dress, it’s okay not to cry, Thorson said. Don’t feel the need to have a dramatic “Say Yes to the Dress” moment. Give yourself enough time to find the dress; Thorson suggested starting to shop a year before your wedding date. This timeline leaves ample time for alterations and additional fittings you might need. The dress is the fabric of the wedding, if you will. It is the element that holds it all together, so once you have the dress, many other details often fall into place.